30 Dec 2010

Whose what goes where

Elton John is a daddy. I’m not sure he’s not a mommy. Behind closed doors we don’t know whose what goes where, do we?

Elton has adopted a baby, fathered by someone’s sperm (whose?) someone else's egg and planted into a surrogate mother (yet another person).

Despite speculation that Mr Furnish, 48, provided the sperm for the surrogacy because he is the younger man, it is 63-year-old Sir Elton who has been recorded as the boy’s father at the local register office in Los Angeles.

David is listed as the mother in computer documents, an official told the Daily Mail.

Hmm, only speculation, no definite proof. You see how this is confusing? Is Elton ‘daddy’ because he’s the one with the money? Cause David definitely appears to be the more masculine in the appearance department.

It might be a blessing in disguise that they ‘had’ a male child. As a father myself, I know how hard a time I have to deal with the feminine aspects of Punks being a daughter. Had they a female child, who would be explaining the ‘birds and bees’ and other sundry matters? In fact, who’d be doing that to little Zachery? For all we know, he may think it’s normal for men to be putting their what into another man’s where.

Andrew Pierce, himself gay as well as adopted writes:

As far back as 2001 Sir Elton admitted that he was too old for fatherhood, He told the Swedish newspaper Aftonbladet: ‘I have come to the conclusion that it is too late for me. Had it been 20 years ago, then I would ­definitely have done it. I don’t want to be 70 years old when my daughter turns 16.’

Yet he will now be 79, not 70, when his son turns 16.article-1342409-0C996D18000005DC-265_224x638

What really ­disturbs me is the selfishness of a world where it’s apparently ­acceptable for women in their 60s to pay for expensive IVF or for ­superstars who, in a parody of ­consumerism, ‘buy’ children from ­African orphanages as they think the normal rules don’t apply to them.

But those rules — honed over ­thousands of years — do matter.

And Rule Number One is that, by and large, a child needs a loving mother and father.

Rule Number Two is that a child needs to know where he or she comes from and what their genetic identity is. Two stories in the Mail this week highlight these truths.

There was a survey published ­yesterday from the Prince’s Trust, which concluded that young men with no male role models in their lives, and women without a mother figure, are hugely disadvantaged in life.

Then there was the poignant story of Pat Fitzgerald who, wrapped in blankets with a dummy in her mouth, was abandoned on the steps of a Cardiff hotel when she was only five weeks old.

Now, 71 years after that act of unimaginable cruelty, Mrs ­Fitzgerald, in a desperate bid to fill the huge hole in her life, is trying to discover her true identity, even though she was brought up as an only child by devoted ­adoptive parents.

I ached when I read about the yawning chasm she still feels in her life even though she has four ­children of her own.

I make no apologies for not being politically correct in this post. Some things just can’t be sanitised.